Life's Like That

When was the last time that you had someone light you up from the inside out?
When was the last time that being with someone, made you felt that sense of belonging, that sense of safety, that sense of bliss? Someone that could make you feel fulfilled and confident?

A friend was asking me which is better: to be single and alone or to grab and snatch the first person that shows an interest in her. At this later age, she suddenly realizes that time is running out and she was thinking of getting married soon. But she was also afraid of getting hurt.

I do not know what to reply.

Guess, when it comes to the affair of the heart, I am as clueless as yourself. Getting married is like playing games at the fun fair. You have set your target on the Big Winnie the Pooh doll. You aim and throw the dart straight at the green balloon and bang. If you are lucky, you get what you wanted.

Sometimes with so many worries and problems in your head, you forgot one thing: the objective is to experience your best life with him and not what you imagine will or will not happen. You do not want to end up losing everything and staring into empty spaces and wonder is this all what life is about.

If you think you got it bad, look around. I have made many blunders, saying the wrong things from time to time and again and again...

When you have used up all your energy, creativity, curiosity, playfulness and understanding and still some silly words can keep him away, it's no good getting all twisted and tense. It's part and parcel of a thing called life. There are days when it's sunny..and there are days when it rains just as heavily inside your heart as well as outside.

I am slowly deleting most of my sad notes in this notebook. Hoping that it will not influence anyone's outlook on life.

Dear friend, everyone's life story is not the same. You are the best person to know what you really want, and what you are willing to do to get it. It's your choice. Man or no man, if it is to be, it's up to you.