Let It Be

A friend was complaining that the thought of the upcoming Valentine's Day is making her upset. You can almost see the fumes coming out from her ears. While others are planning or expecting to get flowers or love letters, she's just hoping that Valentine's Day would come and go as quickly as possible.

She's just tired of people asking her 'Why are you still single? You will feel lonely when you are old and no kids of your own to look after you.' she said while making a moue. 'What is so great about being married?' she asked.

How to answer her? Well, it's just the public perception. They see a married woman as having achieved all of a girl's dream: having a partner for life. Never mind that some of them are cheating on each other and keep on fighting for every small thing. All that matters is that they tie the knot.

But in reality, it all depends on luck. Happily married friends will keep on trying to match you up and saying things like 'hope that you will find the love of your life soon.' Those unhappily married will otherwise envy you for staying single and having the freedom minus the heartache.

Why does some women ends up being single? By choice or by having no choice. And again, of course fate has something to do with it. As usual.

Alas, it's not easy being married. It would mean spending your life with someone who is less than what you imagined he is. To give in to your fear of being alone should not be a reason to accept a proposal. There will be consequences and a price to pay at the end.

Being single also is not easy. But not every single woman is sad, lonely and desperate, isn't it? In fact, she could be happier than her married friend who is saddled with children, in-laws, third parties or an abusing spouse.

Just let it be, dear friend. Maybe it's just not your time yet. Enjoy your single status for the time being!