Time Capsule

I was surfing the net, when I saw this site titled 'MyHeartWill'. The concept is exactly like leaving a will..but instead of money, you'd be leaving a legacy of memories or letters to loved ones to be opened in the future. Just like a time capsule. But instead of burying the time capsule deep down in the soil, you leave the time capsule with them to care and send it to someone at exactly the date 10, 15 years later.

Below is an extract from the site :

'Many of us keep our most precious memories on a shelf, in a shoebox or in the pages of a diary. We cannot be sure that these items will stand the test of time or that our memories will live on after we are gone.

Creating a Heartwill removes this uncertainty. A Heartwill is a secure, online safe box, where you can store letters, photographs, recordings and copies of memorabilia.

MyHeartwill is a place where you can create dedicated messages for friends and family which can be scheduled for delivery well into the future, enabling you to speak to the people you love even when your voice is still. It is a way to pass on elements of your emotional life - the beliefs, values and experiences that shaped you as a person - in a place where they can always be found.

Food for thoughts..

Men vs Women

As oppose to what we think, it's easy to maintain a good and stable relationship.. provided that it's not with a man. :p With a man, well, it's a exactly the opposite as a man has different way of thinking when it comes to 'love' and 'relationship'. Different channels and different wavelength... which causes lots of heartache and miscommunication. Well, it cannot be help. Women are from the earth.. while men are..aliens :p lol.. Women love to analyze everything..while men just love to take things as simple as they are.

It takes some getting use to and maybe.. a common dictionary before you are able to communicate easily with each other. Below is an amusing story about relationships, which I would like to share with you. lol..enjoy it.


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Let's take an example. We will look at the case of subject A (which we will call 'Jack') and subject B (let's call her 'Jill'). Jack asked Jill out to watch a movie. Jill accepted and all went well. They had a good time.

A few days later, Jack asked Jill out again for a twosome dinner. It turns out to be a fine evening, each enjoying the other's company. Then they fixed another night out, and another, and another until they were seen as an 'item' or a 'couple'.

Then one night, Jill says to Jack: 'Did you notice that it has been 6 months that we went out together?'. And there was a long silence in the car.

Jill's thinking in her head:
'Sxxt. Maybe I should have not said that. Jack will feel trapped and thinks that I am trying to get him to commit himself to me.'

Jack thinks:
'Wow! 6 months already!'

Jill thinks:
'By the way, I have also not thought of turning this relationship into something serious yet. Will we marry? Have kids? Live together? I don't even know him that well!'

Jack thinks:
'This means that.. we have been going out..since..let's see.. February. Just after I sent my car to be serviced. Hmm.. let me see the mileage counter.. yes.. it's almost time to service it again.'

Jill thinks:
Jack has that worried look on his face. What if I am mistaken about the whole thing? Maybe he wants more from all this. To become more intimate and..an engagement! Maybe he saw a kind of reserve in me. Maybe he's afraid to be rejected. Yes. That must be it.

Jack thinks:
This time I will make sure they check the transmission. I don't care what those mechanics say. Fancy saying that there's nothing wrong. It's all because of the weather, they say. To think that I paid $ 300 to them the last time and it still feels like driving with a heavy load! Cheaters!'

Jill thinks:
He's angry. I understand. I would feel the same if I were in his shoes. It's my fault that he's all upset. But I can't do anything about it. I am not sure yet of my feelings.

Jack thinks:
Well, I am sure that those mechanics will say that I was driving in unsuitable weather! Those thieves!

Jill thinks:
Hmm.. Perhaps i am too strict with myself. Waiting for a knight in a shining armor.. even though I have now next to me a good man who is suffering just because of my childhood dream.

Jack thinks;
Well, I'll show them this time! I'll make sure that they fix everything the way I want!

Jill says aloud: Jack..
Jack : What?
Jill : I am so silly. I realized now that knights in shining armors do not exist. So does their horses.
Jack : Horses?
Jill : You must think that I am stupid, right?
Jack : Not at all. (Jack was happy that he's able to give a correct answer).
Jill : I just need some time..

There was a silence as Jack tries hard to think of a right answer.
Jack : Yes. (Hoping that this is what Jill wants to hear).
Jill : Oh Jack. You do understand. (Moved by Jack's reply, Jill holds Jack's hand)
Jack : Understand what?
Jill : About needing time..(Jill then looks directly into his eyes)
Jack : Of course..Of course I do. (Jack stuttered, getting nervous)
Jill : Thank you, Jack
Jack : You are welcome... (still unsure of what it's all about).

Jill went home, with millions of thoughts running in her head and cried herself to sleep. Jack went home, opened a packet of chips, sits in front of the tv, watching a tennis match. A voice was warning him that something had happened in the car.. but better not think about that.

The male brain is definitely made to analyze numbers and solve concrete problems. :) He cannot grasp something as abstract as love and need. While a woman is convinced that a man must have thought about where a relationship is going. Well, how could a man spend day after day and night after night going out with a woman and not think about it?

Conclusion: A man is not perceptive enough to know that they are in a love relationship with a woman. :p They are slow when it comes to matter of the hearts. So, in order to get the message across to them, you need to slowly and repeatedly put the idea subtly into his head. For example: 'Jack, we are in a love, please pass me the salt'. Or 'Jack, there's a cockroach in the room and you and me are in love'.
And you will see that one day, he will suddenly wake up and thought of it by himself..'Oh..Jill and me, we are in love..'
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Have not laugh this much for some time. Lovely story, indeed.

Scary Movies

I love watching scary movies. I am not picky whether it's in Malay, English, Chinese or Thailand..as long as there's subtitles. Sounds not like me at all, kan.

Well..I do love watching romantic movies, comedies and thrillers also. Alas, my favorite movie remains horror and scary movies. I just love making myself scared. When you are afraid, the rush of adrenaline clears the mind. Same effect as riding on the roller coaster. You just got to do it even though your legs are like jelly already. Must be the dark side of me..:p hehehe.. love having the heart beating as fast as it can from time to time. One rule though, I will not watch a scary movie on my own. Too scary, lho..

Among the 3 scary movies that I would give a 5 star rating:

a) Haunted Changi Hospital
This is supposed to be based on a real life footage that was taken by a film crew at Changi Hospital in January 2010. It's a documentary like movie with a background music of X-Files. Not that scary but nice to watch. :p See the trailer below.
Opening on Sept in Singapore


b) Nightmare on Elm Street
This movie sure is scary. I have watch all the series except for the latest one. The worst part is when there's flashback and when Freddy pops out. You'll never know when and even when you do expect it.. it still makes you jump out of your skin. Hates it especially when Freddy scratches his nail on a surface.. Ewww..


c) Shutter
This movie is about the mysterious ghost figure which keep disturbing the life of a photographer. Mysterious and scary...and it's only at the end that you'll find out the why .. and that the punishment does fit the crime that was committed. There's an American version also, but cat would recommend watching it in the original version : Thailand. The pace is faster and more believable.


Happy 'ghost' watching night.. :p (grin)

The Short N Long of It

Women and their hair.

Yup, the never ending story. :) I have always sported short hair during the school days (except when I finally became senior in form 5. It's not a question of choice at all but a matter of convenience. To whom? My mum of course.

For mum, short hair meant less time to get ready for school (no pig tails to be tied up, no ribbons of matching colors need to be prepared), a dab of oily hair cream and Cat is ready to go. Of course, there's the story of the hair lice too.

At first, Cat was happy also with the short hair cut. Cat used to have wavy, unruly, thick and stubborn hair. How Cat can never make it follow instructions: despite combing it regularly and thousands of times, one side would nicely curl to the inside, while the other side would refused and came out like a duck's tail.

So, it was with a glad heart, she let mum cut it in a boyish style. Short and simple. But when you go to high school, being practical doesn't make you famous. The boys would make fun and teased Cat about her short hair. Those with long hair were a favorite as it seems more feminine to the guys.

After school, Cat had tried all sorts of style: short, mid length and long. Long hair was actually demanded less fuss than short hair. If it's too warm, all Cat need to do is to just tie it all up at the back into a ponytail or a bun. Same as during a travel trip, all you need to do after a wash, is to brush your hair rapidly, give it a toss, and then tied it up loosely with a scarf or put on a nice hairband. (And you need not run to a hairdresser to get it trim each month). If it gets too cold, just let your hair down and it will keep your neck warm and cozy. :)

But as you get older, a short hair cut makes you look younger. :) How flattering it feels to be mistaken for the daughter of the house when you are actually the mistress of it.

All in all, there are times and seasons for hair length. Follows the mood also, for a woman, a drastic change either in the length or color would usually mark some sort of changes in her life.

Maybe it is easier to be a guy. But, it's certainly lots more fun being a girl. :p Hmm.. what if Cat color her hair all white? Then no more worries about white hair appearing.. hehehe..just kidding.

Friend from Abroad

"Yesterday brought the beginning, tomorrow brings the end, and somewhere in the middle we became the best of friends." ~Author Unknown

Today, cat receive a visit from a 'friend' who came back for a vacation from Dubai. How she has changed. And how "we" have changed.

Yesterday, we were merely co-workers, each doing her own job and sometimes we do fight; spats more like it. She being on the customer point of view and cat being on the hotel's view (Trying to maximize the room revenue).

Last year, she resigned and went to try her destiny in Dubai. We had a fun time at the farewell party, with coke bottles splashing everywhere in the office and afterwards when things had died down, we sit down and talked. Bits and pieces of everydays life. And it continues with ym..and..slowly cat begin to understand her. She had thought of cat as a too strict a manager and cat had thought of her as being too playful. But under all that layers, there's a fine person underneath.

Today, seeing her in cat's office, with her previously short hair, which has grown longer and her sunny smile, cat did not have a chance to really talk to her. Well, dear ex-collegue, cat just want to say that cat is proud of what she has done, what she is today and for being a friend.

This is for her :
The aim of life is to live. And to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller-
Live life to the fullest, girl.

Signing off,
Cat

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Life is pain, princess. . . anyone who says differently is selling something
-Wesley The Princess Bride-

A Smiley for A Tired Cat

Actions speak louder than words. :)

Sounds familiar, doesn't it? Let's talk about a very basic thing that most of us forget: the value of a smile.



A new colleague just joined the office last week and was eager to make a pleasing impression on everyone and be one of the crowd. She followed everyone for lunch and even offered to help anyone that needs a helping hand. But she hasn't done anything about her face. She looks so strict and sour most of the time that people dare not ask her for anything.



This thought came back to cat as cat was waiting for her turn for the repeat driving test today. There were 22 of us who has to do the parking test and most of us (mostly women, of course..) were nervous and jittery about it. Everyone was looking so serious and no one was talking to each other. Each was occupied with their thoughts..maybe memorizing the steps on how to park a car. Then, suddenly an attendant came in to the waiting room and switch on the tv, leaving it on the cartoon channel.



A guy started making a funny comment on the cartoon that was shown. Then another guy started laughing....and suddenly all of us started laughing too. All our fears evaporated.. and soon everyone was smiling. That certainly broke the ice. Cat smiled too and started asking the person next too her on her last test drive. And then everyone joined in to tell stories too.

Cat did mention previously in one of cat's article. It does not take much to make someone else smile. A smiley or a nice word at a friend's YM or chat box can do the job . Really.. :p

Don't feel like smiling? Dale Carnegie has a good advice on this: Force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to hum, whistle or sing. Act as if you are already happy and that will tend to make you happy. Happiness does not depend on outward conditions. It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy. It's what you think about it.

So, don't worry, be happy. :) A smile for you on this lovely night. Sweet dreams.

Oh..Those High Heels

Madonna, the Material Girl, was quoted saying 'Buying a pair of high heels give me more satisfaction than sex'. (Smile) Really?

Let's throw away all those flat shoes,then. Don't you ever dream of having that extra half an inch added to your height? High heels are a heaven sent answer : Leg lengthening, attention grabbing and raising the temperature slightly. What is there not to like about them. Just look at those 3.5 inches heels. :)

There are those who wears more than 3.5 heels: Anita Sarawak manages to sing and dance in a 4 inch heels (that's 10.16cm for your info). But that is nothing compared to the infamous 11 inch (27.94cm)heel less shoe boots designed by Olivier Theysken which were never put on sale but still sought after by super rich people. Just imagine the difficulty of trying to balance and walk without tripping yourself in those shoes!

The latest trend and wearable high heels shoes stopped at 5.5 inches (13.97cm)are the brainchild of one Steve Vurrs Yeofvine. Each of his creation is handcrafted and only about 600 pairs are produced each season. His trademark: the use of crocodile & python skins paired with cow and sheep hides in shocking colors. Of course, these high heels are not for you to catch the bus in (at the cost of US$300 - US$500 per pair!!)


Sigh..Women and high heels. What won't certain people (ehem) do just for a pair of shoes. I am still thinking clearly, of course, stopping at 3.5 inches and within the budget :) . It's not the shoes that make the person, but rather how and when you wear the shoes. Just remember that these type of shoes are best for dinners and special occasion and certainly not for running or walking in muddy areas wedding receptions. Wear at your own risks :p