Action Speaks Louder Than Words..

Neil Gaiman has got it right with his quote on Love :
Love makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart.
You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one person, no different from any other person, wanders into your life… when you are not paying attention, and you give them a piece of you. Your life isn’t your own anymore.

Love gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase can turn into a glass splinter working its way into your heart.
It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind.
It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain.
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This was posted on a Friend's FB Status:
Why does a person purposely wants to hurt another person's feelings? Sometimes, when you think about it, it doesn't make sense at all..

Hmm..since when does anything that has to do with feelings make sense? Especially if the above Status update is the result of something between a man and a woman. Everyone knows that a man and a woman's mind works differently. One side is saying A but the other side is hearing it as B. Some things do get lost in translation.

Let's look at it this way. Words especially if written or typed is dangerous (unless you have 'smileys' to put at the end of the sentences so that others can say..'Oh. that's a joke. No need to take it seriously). If the person who wrote something or the person who reads the sentence is in a foul mood at that time, feelings would turn to anger or hurt.

And basically, when people feels hurt, the reflective action is to strike back. Hmm..how about rewinding back the tape to a few hours earlier..have you said or done something to hurt that person's feelings in the first place? Or have you 'NOT' said or done something that was expected? There may be a reason for the hurtful words. Feelings becomes extra sensitive when love is involved.

It might be easier if you could talk face to face..look into the other person's eyes, see the body language : The lips can say anything, but in the long run action speaks louder than words. A hug can replace the so hard to pronounced word 'Sorry'. Everyone needs to feel appreciated and worthy..

It takes two people to make a relationship works. It takes only one to destroy it. Cat also would be much happier if she does not think a lot. Simple minds work better in relationships even though it might lack imagination. There's always two sides of everything. If you feel hurt, turn the other way, walk off. Sometimes, it's better this way. Giving some space..

Learn to forgive. And if something hurts you so much, again forgive and let go. Let it out of the mind and concentrate on other things. If you can't see the action, well, you need to decide something. You, and only yourself knows how the story goes..

Hmm..

Signing off,
Cat